Mismatched desire is one of the most common (and misunderstood) challenges couples face.
One partner is in the mood… the other isn’t.
One wants connection… the other is overloaded.
And suddenly intimacy feels complicated, emotional, or even tense.
In this episode of Do You Feel That?, we explore what’s really happening when you and your partner want sex at different times and why it has nothing to do with attraction or compatibility.
We talk about the science of spontaneous vs. responsive desire, how stress and timing shape libido, and why most couples naturally fall out of sync without doing anything “wrong.”
You’ll learn:
- Why mismatched desire is normal (and expected)
- How not to take “not tonight” personally
- How to create “bridges to desire” for the lower-desire partner
- Low-pressure ways to initiate affection or intimacy
- Simple rituals that reconnect you emotionally and physically
- What to say (and what not to say) when you’re on different pages
If you’ve ever felt rejected, pressured, confused, or just out of rhythm with your partner, this episode will help you understand each other with more compassion and connection and give you tools you can use tonight.
Episode 9
